Guest Takeover: My AWESOME Fiancé

Hello, all you sexy little weirdos! I have hacked into my future wife’s blog and now I get to do what I have always wanted to……….write a blog strictly dedicated to Ryan Gosling’s left pec…..WOOF.

Just kidding…

SO, as most of you can guess from the title, I am the one who is engaged to the lovely, beautiful, amazing, kind, caring and incredible woman who runs this blog. Brittany A. DeRenzis or as you know her, BrittanysBasicallyLiving. Can we talk about the fact how her initials spell “BAD”. How could I NOT fall in love?!

She told me I could write about whatever I wanted, so I will write a little about inspiration and where it comes from. Not just for me but in general.

Inspiration is a very loose term. People can get inspired from multiple different types of art, music, travel experiences, anything really. With something that is so broad and open to interpretation, I think it would be stupid for someone to try and actually define inspiration.

To feel inspired is really just to feel change. You saw something, something happened, and it made you feel differently than you did five minutes ago. That’s all there really is to defining it.

I think too many people get depressed over the feeling of useless inspiration. The feeling of wanting to do something and feeling different but convincing yourself that there is no possible way you’d be able to do it. The thing is, useless inspiration is just as valid and true as inspiration that causes others to create music or art or a film, or even to throw a rock through a window. What matters is how you feel and how you decide to carry out this new amazing feeling you’ve just felt. Even if that is just enjoying the fact that something was actually able to move your emotions that much.

You may be wondering how this ties into my fiancé. Well, for two reasons:

  1. She inspires me every day

As cheesy and corny as this sounds it is 100% true. She has always been an advocate for me when no one else was. She’s tells me to follow what I feel, not what I know. She is always there with me to experience new forms of music and art and film and it makes me happy to be next to her.

2.  She feels.

When I say she feels. That may seem simple. Well, newsflash, it is. She feels love. She feels hate. She feels anger and lust and anguish and anxiety and confidence and insecurity and is not afraid to tell me what she feels.

When she watches or hears something that inspires her, she is able to recognize and appreciate the mere fact that something was SO powerful that it was able to move her.

THAT is why I love her so much and THAT is why I want to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. Because even if we’re listening to a song, she is taken a back that something so powerful just gave her goosebumps. And she can do nothing but feel  her arm, stroking it back and forth, amazed that she just went though that change from something that she didn’t know existed five minutes before.

Some of us never find someone who you can find a real connection with. I was lucky-enough to find that person at 20 years old. Almost 7 years later, we still go to bed happy every night, and we always look for things that can help us feel a little different than we did five minutes before.

That’s my two cents.

Cheers,

-Chris

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My Skin Cancer Scare

As most of you know, I LOVE to take selfies. Whether or not I post all the ones I take…Well, that’s another story. Let’s just say my phone’s storage is basically half taken up by my own face.

I have had a few moles for some years now, along with some birthmarks as well. This was nothing new to me and I was used to seeing them on my body. So, during one of my selfie-taking sprees, I noticed that a little mole that was on the very top of my forehead was more noticeable than ever before. It got me interested enough to look back to old pictures and notice that it wasn’t even there!

As you can imagine, I instantly knew what it was. I have cancer and I’m going to die. Anyone else who has anxiety, especially when it comes to ANYTHING medical can relate to that instant thought. (no, I don’t have cancer, btw.)

I went to a local dermatologist – I’ll deal with this woman in a bit – and I had them take a look. Long story short, they wanted to take a biopsy, right then and there. I have never had anything more than a tattoo needle touch my skin, and now they were about to take a piece of my head out?! The way she explained it, she made it seem like a quick and easy process. Take a small biopsy, get test results, and even if they remove it, it’ll be quick and painless. Little did I know…

Thankfully, the results came back negative for any type of cancer or Melanoma. It was an Atypical mole, which is common on people who are prone to moles and have fairer skin. So, as they said before, they would take it out and would need me to come back in.

NOW I will deal with the doctor. In the past decade I have seen internal doctors, dermatologists, gynecologists and other types of doctors. Never in my life did I meet a doctor who was so short with people, a doctor who wouldn’t slow down to explain and who set me into a panic attack over the phone, making me think that I was in danger and needed it out immediately.

After speaking to the physician assistant (really nice woman named Carla) I felt better. She explained things slowly, told me it was okay and actually made me understand. It was bad enough that I needed to have his done, but this doctor made me feel stupid on top of everything. I think she forgets that WE ARE NOT DERMATOLOGISTS. So, you saying long medical words that no one understands and then getting ANNOYED when I say I don’t know what it means, really did not make me comfortable!

The day of the procedure, they made me think (because they said so) that it would be one stich. Not SEVEN on two layers like I got. This picture below is what it looked like the day of the procedure. (this was to remove a 1/8 inch long mole)

This was a nightmare. I am getting married in April, and I look like someone attacked me with a bat. Along with constant changing of bandages, not getting it wet (or showering for two days) it also came with a giant headache. For two weeks straight. Also, as an added bonus, I went through the most excruciating pain I have ever felt when she stabbed my head with the needles for anesthesia.

Regardless of how rude and how terrible at communicating the doctor was, she did a good job and was able to remove everything. The stiches were removed a few weeks later and it is actually healing really well! It has already lightened up so much! As you can imagine I was (still am) terrified that this will ruin my wedding pictures that are costing me thousands of dollars…

Now:

This was a very scary experience. For those of you who don’t know me too well, I do not handle medical things well at all. I get very worried, very anxious, I panic and I get worried that something is wrong. A lot of people have the same experience. This was a very big learning experience for me. Not just about how to detect things that change size on my body (which we should all be doing) but also how to handle situations that are scaring me to death.

I’ve also learned how important sun protection really is. I’m very pale so I always put sunscreen on when I went to the beach, pool or any outing where I was in the sun for more then a couple hours. But now I know that it really is important to put sunscreen on everyday, even on those cloudy days that you think won’t matter! I started to do my research about what time of sunscreens are the best and the strongest so I can have peace of mind from now on.

The sunscreen I use is Blue Lizard Australian sunscreen

The only I don’t like about it is that you have to reaalllllyyyy rub it in or you’ll look like a ghost!

A easy tip to wearing sunscreen everyday on you face is using a foundation that has spf in it!

Let me know if you’ve gone through something similar and how you felt!

I’m ENGAGED!

On November 9th everything changed.

So here’s the story!

I was home waiting for Chris to come home after going to see his parents. Being the annoying girlfriend I am, I decided to hide and wait for Chris to walk in and pop out and scare him. Haha! If you know us you know that I always try and scare him and I have waaayyy to much fun with it.

After I scared him to death we talked about our day and I didn’t think any thing of it. I changed into my Christmas pajamas 😑 and at that moment Chris started telling me all this sweet stuff about us and got down on one knee! I thought he was joking and was yelling that he better be serious, lol. Then the big question happened he asked me to marry him! My heart was pounding I was in shock and excited all at the same time. I said yes and he put this beautiful ring on my finger ❤️.

I’ve never been more happy in my life. I’ve always known that Chris was the one and I’m so happy to call him my fiancé and soon to be husband!

I can’t wait to document the progress of wedding planning and share the experience with everyone

A Day In Brooklyn​

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Chris and I went to Brooklyn just to hang out and walk around.

We stopped at this really awesome market that has all handmade items!

Fad Market  

 

 

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I bought this bracelet! Some of the money went to planned parenthood, but they had others that went to different charities to help women’s rights and even the environment.

Check them out!

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We also got these amazing handmade cups and I’m living for them! Aren’t they the cutest?! I was in love with the indent that helps you hold the cup!

The guy that made these was amazing he even had some really cool bowls that I think im definitely going to get soon!

Check him out! Jonathon Castro Designs

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Essential Ingredients For A Killer Date Night!

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Step One: A cute town!

Chris and I love finding new little towns to walk around and take pictures. On this day we went to Tarrytown. They have so many cute shops and places to eat.fullsizeoutput_106bfullsizeoutput_106efullsizeoutput_1076fullsizeoutput_1078

Step 2: FOOD!

Trying a new place to eat is always fun and an easy way to enjoy the nice weather.

We deicided to try Sweetgrass Grill which had vegan options as well!

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We started with Italian Bread and a White Bean Dip with olive oil and garlic.fullsizeoutput_1081

 For an appetizer, we had the Housemade Hummus
Grilled flatbread, za’atar, fried chickpeas. It was so good, probably my favorite out of everything we ordered!

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For dinner I had the  Mushroom Melt
grilled portabella, cheddar cheese, caramelized onion, roasted red pepper, sundried tomato!
Chris had the  Sweet Grass-Fed Burger
grilled grass-fed black angus beef, brioche and he added Bacon and Cheddar.

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Quick Outfit post:

When I’m lost and I have no idea what to wear I always go with all black and cute shoes. It’s super fast and simple and you can always add a bright lipstick, bag or even shoe to add something to the outfit to make it pop!

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Step 3: SWEETS ❤

The last step to this date was ice cream because how do you go out in nice weather and not have one!! fullsizeoutput_1090fullsizeoutput_1091

What is your favorite kind of date?

xoxo

Sur La Table Cooking Class With The BF

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Chris has always loved cooking so when it came to picking out a gift for him I thought taking a cooking class would be super fun.

I booked this class online at Sur La Table in the Ridge Hill shopping center. The class was about 2 hours and 30 mins long, which flies by once you start chopping away.

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  • Tuna and Avocado Ceviche with Plantain Chips

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Next was:

  • Roasted Corn Salad with Chile, Lime, and Cotija Cheese (which was my favorite!)

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  • Char-Grilled Steak with Chimichurri Sauce

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  • Mayan-Spiced Chocolate Pudding With Whipped Cream

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Our Teacher Jessica Woodford was filled with information and eager to help us and she also made it fun, light and funny.

At the end of the class, your group (groups of 4) gets to eat everything you just made, which is probably the best part of the whole thing!

The whole experience was so fun, you get to meet new people and learn hands-on from a chef. Most importantly, you get to bond with whoever you go with. Chris and I had a great time laughing and working together to make a great meal. We’re already looking forward to more classes, maybe baking but that might be a disaster, haha!

Have you ever been to a cooking class?? What did you make?

xoxo

The Couple Bean Boozled Challenge!​

So awhile back my boyfriend Chris and i did the bean boozled challenge that’s been going around on youtube and we decided that we would do the challenge and film the whole thing! Little did we know that it was going to be the most disgusting thing we’ve ever done!

Enjoy this beautiful video of us throwing up! lol xoxo ❤